Posted in: Blog | June 17, 2021
How You Can Help A Child Manage Their Emotions
As a parent, you may have experienced situations where your child is throwing themselves on the ground, hitting and breaking things, crying uncontrollably and basically throwing huge tantrums if they don’t get their way.
This may be a sign that the child doesn’t know how to identify and control their emotions. If you’re wondering how you can help them do that, keep reading.
1. Help them identify their feelings
At Tiny Toes Day Nursery, we believe that a toddlers and children in the early stages of development must first know what he or she is feeling before they can learn to control it. Our staff do this by using feeling emotions yourself. For example parents can utilise this tactic, you can say, “I felt happy when I came to pick you up from school or Tiny Toes Nursery. You can then ask them how they felt when a child did not share a toy or when they saw their best friend etc.
Identifying their emotions will also help them to develop emotional intelligence in future which will help them to handle pressure and anxiety better, improve their physical and mental health, boost their performance at work or school and enable them to enjoy a better quality of life.
2. Acknowledge your child’s feelings
When your child tells you they felt sad or angry when another child took their toy, do not discredit what they’re feeling and tell them that it’s bad to feel angry.
You can tell them you understand why they felt that way. We believe this will pave way for the next step. Our children, especially Preschool age have definitely honed this skill as they are all so well behaved and cope with their emotions excellently.
3. Teach them not to act on their emotions
Children need to know that having emotions is not bad but engaging in bad actions due to the emotions is unacceptable. Still using the same example, you can tell a child that it’s not bad to be angry when someone snatches their toy but it’s unacceptable to hit the person because they’re angry.
Tell the child that they may not be able to control how they feel but they can control how they act and that is what matters.
At Tiny Toes Children’s Day Nursery, our staff always encourage positive behaviour to reinforce kindness and empathy in the children, this enables them to play respectfully and have fun with their peers.
4. Teach them coping mechanisms
We all have different ways of coping with emotions, especially negative ones. Some people will walk away when angry and talk about the situation when they’re calm. Others will meditate, go for a run or do yoga.
At Tiny Toes Day Nursery, we endeavour to help children to identify the mechanism that works for them. Parents may have to try different techniques with them before you land on the one works the best, and our staff at Tiny Toes Nursery are here to help you do this.
For example, you can tell them to count 1 to 10, breath in and out, or imagine a calm scenario like the ocean. You can also ask them what will make them feel better when they’re anxious, frustrated, sad or angry and you may be surprised when they want a hug or a cuddle from you. Even hugging their puppy can help to calm them down.
A good technique that we use for example at Tiny Toes Children’s Day Nursery, is to use a stacking technique with magnetic blocks. This comes in handy as the concentration that is needed to balance the blocks and also counting, is therapeutic for a child. They are distracted from their thoughts, and this can reduce stress and anxiety in young children.
Children experience emotions the same way we do. The difference is that we learn to manage these emotions as we grow up. Here at Tiny Toes Children’s Day Nursery, we teach our children this vital social skill that will make their life easier and happier.